High Gravity Male

Hopefully, you got a chance to listen to the podcast yesterday featuring Josh Pellicer on “Why Aren’t Women Attracted To Me?”

In the podcast, he revealed one of his favorite techniques for sidestepping a woman’s unconscious ‘first impression’ mechanism. He calls it Negative Body Language.

Now, this isn’t exactly what it sounds like. You’re not being standoffish or trying to portray negativity.

Instead, what this technique conveys is the other person hasn’t earned your full attention yet. Now, why would this be important?

It’s simple. Most interactions are, at their basic level, a subtle negotiation of frame control. Now, this works with men just as well as women… just so you know. And in fact, many of the strategies and techniques we’ll discuss on this site will be unisex for the most part, believe it or not.

That’s what makes what all of this fun. And simplifies a whole lot.

Okay, so back to negative body language.

When you are in an interaction with someone, the person who’s feet, chest, and eyes are pointed at the other person is showing the most interest in the interaction as a general rule. Therefore, many times, depending on the situation, it’s best to “not show all of your cards” at first.

That means utilizing angles.

(Check out the podcast for how this works, I don’t want to recover what’s already covered)

Now, here’s what’s fun about body language.

It works in two ways.

One, your body language can be influenced by your mood and acute disposition.

Two, your mood and acute disposition can be influenced by your body language.

So your mood and how you hold your body can feed off of each other.

Here’s an example, in one study (I’ll pull the source tomorrow), having people think about being old actually caused people to WALK SLOWER. So, by “priming” someone with “old” thoughts, you can literally slow their actions down. I’ll go over priming and framing another time.

You can also change a person’s entire disposition just by having them smile. Or having them dance, or move around in rhythm.

There’s an old sales adage (see the movie Boiler Room for an example) that says “Motion creates emotion“. Many sales trainers teach their students to do 2 things when they’re on the phone:

1. Smile
2. Get up and walk around

So it works both ways:

“Motion creates emotion”

“Emotion creates motion”

This is one of the ways you can proactively control an interaction.

Not only that, it gets even BETTER.

You see, using dominant body language can actually temporarily RAISE testosterone levels (again, I’ll pull studies on this tomorrow).

Testosterone is basically the “alpha” hormone and is one of the key factors relating to your DOMINANCE in a situation.

Here’s the final kicker I want you to think about.

Certain guys with certain characteristics can actually cause the testosterone levels of the people they’re interacting with to DROP. What this means is that dominant movements in addition to a few other conditions (like an AI body) can not only affect your testosterone levels, but they can also affect the testosterone levels of others.

And let’s just say it can have a dramatic effect on women as well.

(My partner Brad Pilon, over at Adonis Index is doing a lot of digging into the research on testosterone right now. There are some fascinating concepts we’re developing based on it)

Again, give that some thought.

One of the things we’ll be discussing in detail (just because it’s fun for me), is the hormonal effects on interactions and interactions effects on hormones.

How are you feeling about body language now?

Brad

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